Serious Advice needed

[Aidenn]

Right I seriously need help, several things are now officially ******* up and have been for years

Brief Over-view:
When my Father was 15 His sisters husband raped him, and to put it bluntly His sister is lieing, to his mother and everyone else.

My Father then forgot about it (i dont know how) but within the last 4 years his memory has been recovered and hes learning things that he forgot about aka being raped, Hanged out of the top window of a flat - which effects him to this day because hes scared of heights and won't even go over bridges.

My Dad a few months back was rushed into hospital for attempted Suicide things got that ****** up, he done so by a drug over dose, even after this the family didnt believe him, hes constantly shaking, the court says hes not strong enough.
The people in the Hospital believed my father because his story convinced them, so do the police but it will be have to be taken to court, my parents also went to a Spiritualist a month back and seemed to be able to identify what was happening, My grandma (his mother) listened to the tape and didn't believe it, Hes had Counselling as with the rest of his family, His mother refuses to tell him what was said to her because its 'Private and only for 1 on 1'
Despite my Dad told her everything she wanted to know and she didnt believe.

It seems No one is believing my dad family wise, because if they do they will have to believe everything else such as my Uncle taking my brother drug selling...

Now yesterday Out of know where his mum and his brother turned up (havent seen them for over 3-4 months), His brother (Jamie) is starting to be convinced that my dad is telling the truth but before Jamie could start asking question his Mum disappeared and thus Jamie had to go aswell.

Now today and i mean within 1-2 hours;
My brother has gone up to My dads Mum's several times and told her things blatently, soon as he said: 'Well somebody knows something, but they are acting like they dont'
she snapped and shouted at him by saying 'ARE YOU TRYING TO IMPLY THAT ITS ME?'

So now everything has kicked off again and my father is returning to the stage he was at, before he attempted to commit suicide, and personnally im afraid that they wont stop until my father is in a body bag.

They was also asking why has this came out 5 years after his Dad died, and it was basically because the person who commited the Rape (my Dads sisters husband) Said that he would get the 'RIA' to kill his Dad if he told him.

So yeah i generally need some advice at what can be done ;l

[leer34$]

Oww, I feel sorry for you.
Just stay strong and maybe try talk to him?

[Aidenn]

I always talk with him, still dont stop the fact that people dont believe him,

And the thing is, his sister is also a Teacher and shes lieing about her husband commiting a sexual act.

[leer34$]

Wow, it's that complicated. :S

Well, you could always try talk to other members of family, If it was me I'd just stay out of it. :S

[Mathew]

Hi Aiden,
I don't really want to give you any advice on this because I think it's a serious family matter which is personal to you. I don't want to make things any worse for you or your family by giving wrong advice which could make things turn pear shaped.

I would however, like to wish you all the best and I hope you figure things out in the end. You're a strong enough character, so get out there and make a change for the better rather than keep your feelings to youself!
Best of luck, Aiden.

[Catzsy]

Okay the only thing that matters is your dad at the moment. Forget the sister and the husband and the rest of the family. The main thing is for things to settle down for your father even if it means not contacting them for awhile. He needs his immediate family around him and any professional help that is offered. He needs peace and quiet and to be able to feel secure. I have been in a bit of a similar situation with my step-dad having a very rough time. he has come through it now but he remains quite distant from some of his family.

[Muct]

Okay the only thing that matters is your dad at the moment. Forget the sister and the husband and the rest of the family. The main thing is for things to settle down for your father even if it means not contacting them for awhile. He needs his immediate family around him and any professional help that is offered. He needs peace and quiet and to be able to feel secure. I have been in a bit of a similar situation with my step-dad having a very rough time. he has come through it now but he remains quite distant from some of his family.

This ^^^

Try and just keep him away from all problems until it actually calms down, after that to stop it all setting off again just talk to every-one else about it...
I dunno what'll do him good, a holiday maybe? Or maybe just getting away from the people that have caused it for a few weeks, maybe a month?
It's a serious family matter, Aiden, so I don't really wanna give that much advice for you but yeah, just try and get him as relaxed as possible by keeping him away from every-one that caused it...

[Aidenn]

Well the whole familys just had a whole argument and we've just put them aside now, admittedly there was alot of anger, in our little 'meeting' and nearly ended in a physical fight ;l
I couldnt care less about the rest of the family now, ill just class my family as my Mum, Dad, Brother and Sister, that is all, thanks for all advice +rep if i can.

[Soy]

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Edited by Nicola (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not be rude towards other forum members.

[Muct]

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Seriously, why would Aiden, actually any-one for that matter, lie about something like this?