Discipline

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how were you disciplined as a child?
was it effective?
would you use it on your own children? or what would you use instead?



there wasn't much discipline in my home, it was a case of "your grounded" but being let out after an hour or 2 of crying. it was mostly a reward system, only rewarded or bribed for being good, not much punishment or being sat down and told what i was doing was wrong. most definitely an ineffective method i think. as for me i'll probably punish them and stick with it, no bribing them to do well but rewarding them if they do without asking for it and only for big things otherwise it'd lose meaning.

[chantellehugs]

I was usually smacked on the back of the legs when I naughty and it sure as heck stopped me messing about. I think it was effective because I've turned out fine and I'm not spoilt or a brat. The smacks didn't really hurt but it was a sign that I was doing something wrong.
When I have my own children I intend to discipline them, however I wouldn't ever hit them with an object because I just don't think it's right, but I'd tell them off and constantly be telling them what's right and wrong. I suppose if smacking is necessary I will.

[Red]

I got a smack lmao and my sister would of been more likely to be grounded because for her that was hell on earth whereas I would happily sit in and read. A smack didn't do me any harm and I turned out ok. My parents were really lenient and trusted me growing up so I played up less.

[Chris]

Hmm well mostly it was just constant nagging to do something a certain way, but if it was something really bad then it would be a smack. >_<

[Narnat,]

Nagging, Slapped, Grounded. and I don't think I would use this on my kids I would rather talk to them about it and then go on from there.

[Samantha]

Smacks were used sometimes, never been grounded though.

I've turned out ok. I think!

[Shar]

My parents used to/still do shout to get us to do things their way, its still ineffective as ever

[Shoe]

I got smacked a few times, :/ never been grounded tho... i think i have turned out fine I know when I was little my mum and dad used to use the naughty step

[Rozi]

I think my mum managed very well with me and my brother, well at least with me, tbf my brother's such a little **** sometimes she couldn't do anything. I love my mum so much and imo she's raised a pair of well rounded and mature children ((a)) but failed at installing respect for the amount of work she does. Both me and my brother are unbelievably lazy and really unmotivated and unambitious. In a way though I feel like that's down to my Dad who is also a little **** sometimes.

I would raise my children to be conscientiousness, ambitious, respectful, mature and non-judgemental. I'd make sure they actual have a work ethic though and are fairly ambitious.

[FlyingJesus]

Quick stab in the kneecaps if I spoke out of line, 50 lashes for being improperly dressed and a pan across the face if I was slow to respond to their calls

Nah had like some smacking nothing mega, I think it's necessary in order to teach young kids what's wrong - if the most serious consequence of acting out is being shouted at then what would they ever behave for at that age? People are too scared to discipline their kids these days (not helped by ridiculously OTT child safety laws) and that's why the number of delinquents and troublemakers has been on the rise so heavily through our generation