having a bit of trouble:S

[Jessicrawrr]

This will probably come out real childish, and quite pathetic, but I'm really confused and upset about this whole thing.
Me and my bestfriend both like this boy, but she doesn't know I like him, she was crying to me the other night about how the people she likes always end up liking her friends, and this boy who we both like, is playing us both, she doesn't know it, but he's saying what he's saying to her, to me.
I don't want to say anything to her because it'll upset her a lot, but knowing this is really upsetting me, because she might be getting with him :S
what should I do?

[Narnat,]

I think you have 2 options. You can either tell her and that way she will know and wont get hurt or you can just let love take it's course. Sometimes you need to get hit with the bad to get the good because she will know how to read boys like him in the future and maybe be more aware. If you chose to tell her yeh she might be a bit upset but wouldn't anyone be? It's life and it's something that everyone will have to deal with. Love has a fair proportion of good and bad and both of them will lead up to finding the right person because if someone was right every time then love would be boring. Best of luck! xxx

[Catzsy]

I think the simple answer is that 'he is playing you both' so what type of person do you really think he is and is it risking a friendship over?

[Zak]

In my past experience trying to get girls away from ******** user lads hasn't been all that successful, they just don't listen. Being her best friend she'll probably listen and take on board what you say more, I defiantly think you should tell her then make her own decision on the subject. That way you've told her but still aren't stopping her from doing what she wants. If she wants to continue to be used, she'll have to find out the hard way I'm afraid, a lot of girls do.

That's what I would do with my friends that are a little younger (17-18). The older friends I have tend to see sense a lot better and don't get themselves into this kind of stuff If you're much younger (below 16) I wouldn't worry about it, just take note of what I said.

[ben]

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[Shar]

I'm not going to say you're too young to get into this mess, because lots of people my age always end up in situations like this. I'd say just be straight with her but don't get involved with him because he probably is just playing you both.

[cocaine]

oh ive been the boy in this situation, it didn't work out well for me bahahaahaha curse me and my good looks and charm. the boy (unless its me ofc which none of them realised) is probably not worth losing a friend over

[MizzBex]

I think that if he's 'playing you both' then he doesn't seem to be the sort of guy who you're going to be able to trust - maybe you should be honest and talk to your friend about what you think he's doing. Hope this helps
xx

[Richie]

Tell him to get lost, tell your friend he's playing her, if she doesn't believe you it's her loss. She'll thank you in the long run.

[Mark]

Speak to your friend and take it from there, the likelihood is that both of you could play him back? Not very good advice but may as well play him at his own game