Parental Problems

[Showder]

Hiya there,

Okay, so maybe some of you know, I'm a crazy, cheerful person as always. Maybe a tad too much...
Now, I've just figured out a very painful secret, so painful I can't take it any longer...

I and my brother were born out of a wedlock, if you don't know what that means, it means that my parents were not married when my mom gave birth to us.
My parents, have zero compatibility, probably because of my mom's attitude, and my dad's family, I'll explain more now.

My mom, figured out, during her pregnancy to me, that my dad actually have a wife and 4 kids. She was totally furious, and confronted my dad, which resulted in an abusive argument.
Now, they are separated, but just meet for the sake of both of us.

Fast-forward to now.
Just recently, I found out again, my dad's probably cheating on us.
It was mid 2009, when I first saw her girl B (name changed due to privacy)
B was pretty, so I 100% knew my dad fell for her.
I was actually correct, and they went out whilst I and my brother studied in school, and one night, I found them both together at the same restaurant we were eating, and my father didn't even know we were there.
Then today, I heard rumours from my dad friend, that they slept together...
I was heartbroken, angry, and hurt.

My dad doesn't even know we know that he MIGHT be dating another girl.
It may not be true, it may be because I haven't confront him yet, because he has a bad-temper whenever people confront him.

Help please A.S.A.P? I'm really stuck, I don't wanna tell my dad, but I want to, but I can't, but I have to.
What if he slaps me, abuses me, screams at me?

[=Lizzy]

wait im confused, are your parents married now?

if so you need to talk to your dad he wont hurt you or anything, just pull him to one side and ask what he is doing and why

[Lee]

I'd personally say don't interfere, it's tough though having all this pressure placed on you

[Showder]

Lizzy, my dad isn't married yet.
But he's married to his first wife.
Second, is my mom, and no not married
Third is not married, and is current "girlfriend"

Lee, but anything worse could happen!
My dad didn't tell us he bought a ticket for her girl and her friend to bangkok.
When I asked him if I could go, he said its too expensive.

[JerseySafety]

I'd personally talk to him about it and tell him its hurting you. You can't just leave it if it's destroying your life.

[Samantha.]

So your dad is still married to the first woman? I think you should say something to your dad and if your dad shouldn't really hit or abuse you because you could get him into trouble for that. Have you spoken to your mum?

[Charlie]

So, basically your dad has a wife, is seeing your mum and is also seeing someone else? Usually I'd say you should talk to him about it because it isn't fair on all these girls, if none of them know about the other and it'll soon come out and get him in trouble with all of them but if he is abusive towards you then I think you need to tell someone about that. No parent should be abusive to their child and no child should take that abuse, you need to tell someone what is going off in case that gets out of hand as well.

[Showder]

I know it's kinda confusing for you, cuz it's the same for me.
The first wife knows the second wife, as well as the second wife, but both of them don't know the third gal.
Just talked to my dad and he denied it, saying that everyone is lying, then I talked to his driver, and he said that my dad is obviously cheating on us, but he doesn't know we know,
Like a labyrinth game.
I'm still worried if my dad is lying.

[Samantha]

Why not talk to your mum she's been there maybe she knows how to confront him or something. If your dad says everyone is lying then everyone's thinking the same and I doubt everyone can be wrong.