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[Maria...]

hi

ive had problems at school ever since i can remember. people hated me for no reason. they used to make rude comments about me. they still do.

i started going online to try get away from these problems, but i started getting bullied online too. i couldnt say 1 word without getting hated for it. they laugh about my looks and personality. they threaten me. theres just no gettin away from it. its awful.
everyone gangs up on me.

a few yrs ago my parents split up. my homelife has been rubbish since then. my mum cries every day and is in such a mess tht she dont talk to me or anything.
im 17, and havin to look after my 11 yr old sister whos a cow. ive been cut off from my dad so he cant support me.

bout 6months ago i started self harming. i feel so stupid admitting to tht. what an idiot i am. but it gives me relief. gives me hope tht theres a way out if i need one. recently ive been wanting that way out. im attempting more often nd stuff.

i just dno what to do. i think i need mental help or something.what do u guys suggest i should do?

[Robbie]

is this @:Cerys ?

Edited by Lee (Forum Moderator): Please don't make pointless posts.

[Sharon]

is this @:Cerys ?

Edited by Lee (Forum Moderator): Please don't make pointless posts.

oh you didn't just do that, haaaaaaa

so this isn't pointless, you probably need professional help

[Abbie.]

Aw this is horrible I suggest going to a doctor who could refer you to someone who could speak to you about it. My sister talks to someone cause she devolped really bad depression from when she was bullied and shes not even herself anymore :/ and it really helps her to talk to a professional

[dirrty]

is this @:Cerys ?

Edited by Lee (Forum Moderator): Please don't make pointless posts.

:rolleyes: thought the hate cerys bandwagon had finally departed...evidently not. even if it is her, pretty much a dickish thing to say to anyone whose wanting some help, self-harming and having a **** life.

well for one, the only way to overcome issues is to go straight to the source. she may not listen, but i'd seriously talk to your mum. even showing/telling her that you self-harm may make her understand that she's not the only one who is suffering in the situation. but yeah, also go to your doctors. they'll refer you to professionals who can help you through your issues as suffering in silence doesn't make any situation better. in regards to your school life, i suppose you should really tell your teachers about whats happening. but don't expect things to change drastically because aslong as those kids are there, they'll continue to do/say whatever they want. besides that, sticking up for yourself and rising above the comments would probably be your best bet. if you have friends, just focus on them really and whenever people make comments towards you, just ignore them. it's obviously not something easy to do, but unless you can physically defend yourself, kids will always pick on those who they deem 'weaker' than them.

and you say ppl bully you online, but can't you just block them?

[Robbie]

:rolleyes: thought the hate cerys bandwagon had finally departed...evidently not. even if it is her, pretty much a dickish thing to say to anyone whose wanting some help, self-harming and having a **** life.

well for one, the only way to overcome issues is to go straight to the source. she may not listen, but i'd seriously talk to your mum. even showing/telling her that you self-harm may make her understand that she's not the only one who is suffering in the situation. but yeah, also go to your doctors. they'll refer you to professionals who can help you through your issues as suffering in silence doesn't make any situation better. in regards to your school life, i suppose you should really tell your teachers about whats happening. but don't expect things to change drastically because aslong as those kids are there, they'll continue to do/say whatever they want. besides that, sticking up for yourself and rising above the comments would probably be your best bet. if you have friends, just focus on them really and whenever people make comments towards you, just ignore them. it's obviously not something easy to do, but unless you can physically defend yourself, kids will always pick on those who they deem 'weaker' than them.

and you say ppl bully you online, but can't you just block them?

i didn't mean it in a bad way. i've never even participated in this "bandwagon" - i've only just started being really active again so i missed all the bullying ****. i wanted to know because i can answer the question more accurately because i can go back through her old posts and see whats really bothering her.

i don't even know why she was bullied on the forum, i've never been into all that lol

[buttons]

i didn't mean it in a bad way. i've never even participated in this "bandwagon" - i've only just started being really active again so i missed all the bullying ****. i wanted to know because i can answer the question more accurately because i can go back through her old posts and see whats really bothering her.

i don't even know why she was bullied on the forum, i've never been into all that lol

if you don't know why she was bullied on the forum then why would you assume that all of OP's problems are attributed to cerys'? they're nothing similar at all and even if OP was cerys then it would be nicer to actually answer the question. if it was to 'look back at her old posts to see whats really bothering her' as you say then maybe you should have done so before posting such a ridiculous post :/

as for OP (who probably won't come back after such an appalling welcome) i've had experience having people hate me for no reason too at school. it's school, kids are going to be like that and it won't mean much once you're out there. however, i still suggest going to the head teacher and if they fail to do anything about it then please try someone higher up ie writing to the local council or even local newspaper. that's one thing that really got our teachers' heads out their arses and begin to do their job properly. other than that, rise above the comments and carry on. they may or may not get bored of it but it's the best option imo, as long as you don't show it bothers you and smile instead.

again, i was in the same position where i was bullied irl and had to face the same treatment online too. you have the choice whether you show a picture of yourself on the internet or not, so that's really your fault unless they found your facebook or something. it's so easy to say but you CAN block and ignore people from the internet. i bet in real life they're nothing like they act online and are probably bully victims themselves. there are still some good people both irl and online, you just need to find them and not give in to the bullies. find your own friends and focus on them both here and at school.

your mum needs help otherwise it's going to get worse for both you and your sister too, you take the whole brunt of it which isn't fair at all. if she doesn't talk to you then you have to make the effort too. you haven't really explained how she reacts towards you so if it's possible to talk to her then try really hard. you have to make your feelings known, no matter how hard it is and the sooner the better. really, someone else with experience can probably help you here as i've never been in the position.

don't feel stupid or ashamed about self harming. it's really quite common and although it gives you relief right now, there are other ways you can get it. do you have any hobbies? find something that you can channel all your energy in to.

i'd talk to a guidance councillor at school or just anyone with authority that you trust. hope it goes well for you xx

[Robbie]

fair enough. i actually missed whatever has happened with cerys though, like i said, i've never paid attention to the bullying on the forum.

[Ticklestar]

Keep going strong! Ignore what they say, and keep you're head up high. You'll get over them, and don't sink down to there level. Tom x

[CaptainAce$$]

Ignore them, it's hard and a long road but you'll get there in the end. You will always remember getting bullied, how it felt and the pain. But once its well and truelly over, it feels a little better. In time you'll make friends and will look back on it and think lol at the bullies. See a doctor or talk to someone who will understand Someone who can support you through it.