Forgiving

[CaptainAce$$]

Do you forgive people easily? For me it depends on what the person has done. Sometimes I'll forgive them straight away and other times it will take ages to forgive them or even talk to them again. Discuss all things about forgiving people here

[MKR&*42]

Hmm let me find the response I put in a thread I started, which answers this q...

I've always had this thing. I find it impossible to hate someone or something - they may annoy me for a short while and I may ignore them, but I really cannot find it in me to hate anything > I'm not capable of disliking something that much . The longest I've managed to ignore someone is literally a month - I just give in and forgive them because I forget the past too easily?

Also, in many situations, I end up feeling sorry for the person who has pissed me off. I mean, someone has mocked me 'very harshly' because of issues with my dad and childhood and managed to make me cry (>_>) and I don't even hate them... I actually feel sorry for them if they're upset (ignoring the entire idea of Karma )

Hmm, I posted that about 3/4 months ago and I think my view has changed partially... I'm finding it easier now to remain mad + unforgiving to people but they have to do something completely extreme for me to block them out + not forgive them. Usually it's eventually me forgiving and forgetting about what they've done lol.

[dirrty]

nope. some guy insulted me like 4 years ago, i haven't forgotten and still dislike him (because of more reasons than the initial thing anyway as i actually find his presence annoying) and show my dislike to him whenever he's around me (especially when it was raining heavy one time and i was giving ppl lifts home from the pub as i wasn't drinking and someone was like "what about andy, he'll be on his own" and i just said "ha, what about him, he's not getting in my car". like he's in my social group and everyone knows i don't like him but find it all amusing anyway.

i just think i can be far too stubborn to forgive someone if the did me wrong, but then again (even though i'm kinda contradicting myself now) it does depend on what the person did in the first place.

[Inseriousity.]

I'm very stubborn and refuse to forget things. However, I think this is because all my experiences of forgiving someone they've tried to force forgiveness on me ("that was ages ago, just forget it!") which I think is a little rude and disrespectful. Despite that, you'd have to do something really drastic for me to get into a position where I cut off all contact and can't forgive entirely because I'm also a laidback guy and most things don't bother me.

[Catchy]

Guess it depends what the person has done, usually I don't like to hold a grudge but to be honest, my lifes pretty boring atm nothing exciting really happens. I've fallen out with a couple of friends and haven't forgiven them in the past purely because they'd been **** friends and if there's anything I dislike it's crap mates who aren't loyal. I tend to forgive most things but I think there's some things that I just wouldn't be able to forgive but I like to think it's better to forgive rather than be bitter about it.

[dbgtz]

No I can hold grudges for years. The oldest one I can think of is like 6 years and counting.

[Tom]

Well, most of the things in the world don't even bother me because of the way I've lived. There's a couple of people in the world I do not and refuse to get along with as they make my blood boil so much - and that's not exaggerating. I find it easily to forgive and sometimes that gets me into positions I don't want to be in because I feel like I just give up too easily, but it's in my nature to.

It's extremely hard to get me to properly hate you, but it's possible. So to properly answer your question yes I can be forgiving unless you do something unforgiveable.

[Neversoft]

I'm way too forgiving, but I never really feel hatred. If someone lets me down, or disappoints me, or hurts me, I just get really, really upset and depressed. And I want that to end as soon as possible, so I have to be forgiving. It's a shame, in a way. I can see people in my future taking advantage of that.

[Cerys]

Well, for example I'm not gonna forgive people on HxF till I am like, 30. So I guess I don't forgive easily
Except with my really close friends, with them I would be just so desperate to talk to someone again that I'd forgive them.

[geo]

Umm, yeah I think I am pretty forgiving. I think I'm let down a lot by my friends so I'm kinda used to it all. I know if I made a big deal about what they did it would just cause an argument and wouldn't be worth it. I think the longest I haven't let something go and moved on was for 6 months and I'm glad it lasted that long as it allowed us to get away from each other and say everything on our minds.

I don't think I could ever hold a grudge that long again, depends who it is and they would have to do such an awful thing to me.