Relationships

[jasean94]

so i am in this Relationship with this guy and he bi but his family dose not know that. so today i wonted to see what he was doing to the i txted his phone all *REMOVED* day ... so i txted his sister phone in he replayed to me "i'm so *REMOVED* mad at you and stop stalking my sister to get in contact with me" the only way in to contact his sister to contact him. so i dont know what to any more. i need help on what should i do .... i really love hime :S:S:S

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[Drewar]

So he said he was mad at you? Do you have any idea why he would be? You said you were texting him all day without response. When was the last time he replied to you?

Maybe he's just having an off day. How long have you been seeing him?

[jasean94]

mad at me cuz i was using his sis to get to him . no re-spawned yet . we been dating for 3 mouths

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So he said he was mad at you? Do you have any idea why he would be? You said you were texting him all day without response. When was the last time he replied to you?

Maybe he's just having an off day. How long have you been seeing him?

mad at me cuz i was using his sis to get to him . no re-spawned yet . we been dating for 3 mouths

[Eric]

Just meet him in person at the usual place that you'd see him? and you said his family didn't know about it yet you're using his sis to get to him so his sis knows about this right? but why do you have to do that anyway does he not have a facebook or a phone or something

[Inseriousity.]

Being in love doesn't mean you need to keep tabs on them 24 hours a day, it doesn't mean they have to respond to every single text, email, message straight away if there is something in their own life that is stopping them from doing so. You're acting clingy and he clearly doesn't find it endearing. I'd suggest you back away and find some hobbies or interests of your own that are independent of your relationship.

[FlyingJesus]

You sound terrifying especially if you're getting in contact with his family (who don't know his situation) to force him to respond; you're putting him at risk of being outed before he's ready and depending on what his family's like that could put him in genuine danger. Stop

[sex]

try contact his mum next time
thats what i usually do
show up to his house unannounced also

[Matthew]

From what I could make of your post you seem incredibly clingy..

How do you normally contact him? Why did you have to go through his sister? I bet his sister was like 'wtf' if you really were texting her all day .

[Charz777]

If he doesn't want his family to know, trying to contact him through his sister was very foolish.

Personally, I've been the clingy one in a relationship, waiting to check up on him all the time, but you don't need to. Usually I found if he didn't respond it wasn't because he was off cheating or had fallen down a well, it was because he's been on his Xbox for 8 hours straight and not checked his phone. Of course I used to worry but you eventually learn to relax and let them have their time and you can have you're own, which is great. Don't start thinking, 'well, why hasn't he thought about me in the last 4 hours, if he had he's have messaged me!' Believe me, that's not fun for anyone - avoid at all cost!

Additionally, you need to think about how he is feeling. Has he only recently discovered he is bi? He might like time to think about things and if his phone is constantly buzzing he won't be able to get you out of his mind long enough to think about it. Also, if he's always on his phone he might be worried that his family will notice and want to know who he is seeing. Just look at it from his point of view, people aren't always that straight forward. And if he's annoyed at you, let him calm down, trying to argue about who is in the wrong will not help anyone if someone is angry or upset, give it a few hours.

I know that when you love someone you want to be in their thoughts and whatnot, but people have to live their own lives too, it took me a while to realise that I wasn't the only thing in his life, as much as I wanted to be, and that I can't take up all of his free time. As you get older you get used to it a realise love has a completely different meaning to what you first expected.

[j0rd]

3 mouths is a really long time