Learning & Social Problems

[Jazz]

I'm not sure what this thread is supposed to be, maybe drifting between story telling & informing so sorry if this doesn't make a whole lot of sense. This is also quite hard for me to write up and post publicly so please expect some errors & random babbles

Last week I had an IQ test done by my psychologist to see how my brain functions are working. These tests are sometimes also used to help diagnose learning disabilities, and my results were explained to me today. Most of it was fine but one in particular was 'worrying', my processing speed. My processing speed is low, this is a sign of learning difficulties because it means I find it difficult to process information given to me and convert it into short & long term memory. I'm not going to go into it fully on here but if you want to know more just message me or something.

The point of me making this thread is that I was informed that because I had such a low score it is likely to be a major reason for why I suffer with behaviour & social problems and if this had been properly identified by my doctor or picked up on by the school & things were put in place, my education would have been drastically improved.

I was told by the schools and doctors that I was just a 'kid acting up' or a behaviour kid. The amount of times my family tried to get me tested and it was denied because I was just 'acting up'. I'm not putting blame on anyone, because schools and mental health services are completely stretched to the limit where I am but I still can't help but feel angry.

What I want to say is that, there's a good deal of people on this forum are around 13/14 (actually any age) & if you're concerned about your mental health, your ability to socialise or learn etc please talk to someone about it. If you don't think what your doctor or teacher or family member is saying is right go and talk to someone else, you're entitled to a second/third/ninth opinion. I just believed what everyone said, I believed that I was just a bad kid & I was. If my problems were caught and things were put in place at 13/14, I would have been able to study properly for GCSE's and not forget everything & become that annoying kid who acted up in class.

Now I have this diagnosis, I can finally have steps put in place to help me in education & in general life and get back on track and its a sense of relief for me. So, yeah better late than never. I'd love to hear other peoples stories on this if they want to share them.

[Inseriousity.]

i had a friend in school who really struggled but it wasn't until she went to college that she was diagnosed with dyslexia and got the help she needed.

[Lewis]

Meh, it honestly depends on what you think. If you're having troubles socializing but want to, you most certainly should speak up. But I'm not social at all really in real life because I simply prefer being that way lol

[Jazz]

i had a friend in school who really struggled but it wasn't until she went to college that she was diagnosed with dyslexia and got the help she needed.

Thats sad but all sadly quite common, college actually tend to be better with SEN than secondary schools I found glad she got the help.

Meh, it honestly depends on what you think. If you're having troubles socializing but want to, you most certainly should speak up. But I'm not social at all really in real life because I simply prefer being that way lol

Oh yeah definitely, if thats your choice, thats your choice. If you're happy and prefer not to socialise with every tom bobba and harry then thats your decision! I mean when like you feel its out of your own control & its no longer a choice if you get my drift haha.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I used to be really shy and never used to socialise in my younger teens, I didn't have problems (that I know of) I just needed to grow up, mature and know myself better. It's all part of growing up and the coming of age if you ask me, something you just go along with rather than fill yourself up with pills or talk to a government-funded shrink who will shower you with sympathy.

Everything nowadays is being classed as a disability. Maybe some of us are just better at socialising/processing information better than others.... :S

[Shar]

I don't know how to go about it but I've always felt like I genuinely can't process information easily or retain it and I used to think it was nothing but I'm finding it more difficult now when I'm in placement and someone tells me to do something and I forget it a few seconds later.

[Jazz]

It's all part of growing up and the coming of age if you ask me, something you just go along with rather than fill yourself up with pills or talk to a government-funded shrink who will shower you with sympathy.

Everything nowadays is being classed as a disability. Maybe some of us are just better at socialising/processing information better than others.... :S

Disagreed & have to correct you on a couple of points, people don't just get put on medication unless its needed, a giant stereotype in mental health care is that everyone is forced on medication and its totally untrue, because of the expense of medication like this most cases (especially children) go down CBT or speech therapy routes, GP's are a pain in the ass for trying to put people on Anti-Depressants, but you have always got the choice to ask for a non medicated route & 'government-funded shrinks' are trained to give no sympathy, its a technique to try and help people beat the disorders & not be belittled.

I do agree that mental health problems have a label on them, but I feel they're needed for now at least until people are more educated on the subject, I can't explain my disorders (which I will suffer with for the rest of my life, like my nan & mother so they're not a part of growing up) without having to use my disorders name. Yes, some of us are but some of us need help and support to get through the negative effects of our problems

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I don't know how to go about it but I've always felt like I genuinely can't process information easily or retain it and I used to think it was nothing but I'm finding it more difficult now when I'm in placement and someone tells me to do something and I forget it a few seconds later.

If you're in education it was suggested to me to take notes or record sessions and replay them back, when I was in placement I explained that its sometimes a bit hard for me to take everything in and if I could take notes and they were completely fine with it. If its effecting your everyday functions and its getting to overthrow then thats when I suggest talking to someone, but understandably thats easier said then done.

Sorry not 100% awake so probably a load of garbage x

[Kyle]

It used to be ADHD and more recently it's becoming aspergers, depression, bipolar disorder, etc. it's odd that the more disorders that surface, the less and less people hae faith in their ability. If there is an excuse for it, parents, teachers and the children themselves will use it to justify their performance. Should we be relying so much on labels these days to ostracise ourselves or should we get on with our lives. We are all different ad destined for different routes in life.


~~from phone