LDR

[Sharon]

• have you been in a long distance relationship?
• are you in a long distance relationship? how do you find it / how do you cope? any experiences detail them here
• would you have a long distance relationship?

it's like a 30/40 min train for mine but since he's passed his test he drives here which takes about 40 mins ummm it hasn't increased how often he comes which is once a week because of college/my work/his work. i find it really hard seeing him once a week let alone people who have to wait long inbetween... guess they get used to it though!!! there's just times i really need him/just miss him n i have to wait but i guess it's something to look forward to. we've both mutually agreed if we started this whole thing living near each other it wouldn't have lasted lol we physically can't get along with each other for long periods of time together!!! i'd love to be able to have him closer now though. sometimes he has somethin on at the weekend n i end up having to wait two weeks (three one time, i was NOT ok) and i'm just so needy

i think i would do it again but i couldn't do it with someone any further than about half an hour that definitely wouldn't be able to see me often. definitely would look closer to home as i'm an intimacy cravin lil freak

[Empired]

hasn't there been a thread about this recently? idk. my answer has probably changed since the last time.

I would definitely consider a LDR now. I feel smothered by people really easily even if it seems totally normal to everyone. I'd rather see someone once a week and then just let me continue on my own for the rest of the time. Also maybe I would appreciate the time I do have with them more? idk. I know jealousy/a fear of being cheated on happens a lot in LDRs but to be honest I've gotten past being bothered about cutting someone off/breaking up with them so if I didn't feel happy I can end it.

Oh and also I have never had a long distance relationship xx

[lawrawrrr]

yes I have, no I'm not, not deliberately.

Obviously y'all know I've met people online and stuff, but being so far away is hard when it comes to seeing each other, and it's expensive too! I've also been in a relationship that started close but then he moved away, and not seeing each other was pretty much the biggest cause for splitting up.

I'm not in one now, not really interested in anyone.

I wouldn't get into a long distance relationship by choice any more, I'm being quite sensible right now (shockingly) and not getting into anything, as I don't think I'm staying here much longer anyway.

[buttons]

have you been in a long distance relationship?
yeah most of them were cause i live in the middle of nowhere and have to travel an hour to get anywhere.

are you in a long distance relationship? how do you find it / how do you cope? any experiences detail them here
yeah and fine, it's only about 2.45 hours on the train, although i have to travel almost 2 hours to get to the train station, so it does take up a good chunk of my day. this rship is more stable than the other ones i have despite being almost 5 hours away from each other because i'm more mature than i was in those relationships. distance was a major factor in breaking up with them because of the paranoia and missing them. this relationship is just completely different circumstances. i still get excited a day or 2 before going down and then when i'm about 20 minutes away n yeah n hate it when i've got to go.

would you have a long distance relationship?
i probably would again. i would definitely find it difficult to date someone outside of Scotland and especially someone overseas. i've a friend who has a boyfriend in America and ugh? they see each other 2-4 times a year. i'm quite lucky to only be 5 hours away. we see each other once a month for at least 3 days which probably doesn't sound that much to anyone else but i'm happy w/ it. probably easier cause we know in a few months i'll be able to move here and will only need a train and a bus to visit anyone from home.

i know people say "they don't work" ok but....... mine does. mine is. many people's do. + its fine if u don't want to ever be in one. i know its "sensible" to date someone near u but i find something romantic about long distance and people falling in love online and living happily ever after

[OldLoveSong]

Im in one rn been together almost a year. I fly out to see him or he flies out to see me every 2-3 months for a week or two. Hes in usa im in canada. Always txtin voice msgin facetimin etc so its normal for us

[Samantha]

have you been in a long distance relationship?
yeah most of them were cause i live in the middle of nowhere and have to travel an hour to get anywhere.

are you in a long distance relationship? how do you find it / how do you cope? any experiences detail them here
yeah and fine, it's only about 2.45 hours on the train, although i have to travel almost 2 hours to get to the train station, so it does take up a good chunk of my day. this rship is more stable than the other ones i have despite being almost 5 hours away from each other because i'm more mature than i was in those relationships. distance was a major factor in breaking up with them because of the paranoia and missing them. this relationship is just completely different circumstances. i still get excited a day or 2 before going down and then when i'm about 20 minutes away n yeah n hate it when i've got to go.

would you have a long distance relationship?
i probably would again. i would definitely find it difficult to date someone outside of Scotland and especially someone overseas. i've a friend who has a boyfriend in America and ugh? they see each other 2-4 times a year. i'm quite lucky to only be 5 hours away. we see each other once a month for at least 3 days which probably doesn't sound that much to anyone else but i'm happy w/ it. probably easier cause we know in a few months i'll be able to move here and will only need a train and a bus to visit anyone from home.

i know people say "they don't work" ok but....... mine does. mine is. many people's do. + its fine if u don't want to ever be in one. i know its "sensible" to date someone near u but i find something romantic about long distance and people falling in love online and living happily ever after

I can understand that, but in my eyes - sensible would be being with someone you want to be with and not putting up with someone just because they're closer and more convenient. If it works and you're happy with it then that's the sensible part. I'm not disagreeing with you though as I know a lot would see it the opposite way!

Yes I've been in one before if you count 20-30 minutes in a car or 90 minutes on a bus.

I'm not in one now, my boyfriend lives in the same town as me, but were at the opposite ends so it's around 2 miles away (he's moving though so it'll change to 10 probably). That's when this relationship may become more long distance, but we may still work together and he can drive so it's not too bad.

I don't believe I could cope with a long distance relationship anymore, if I've met them and everything I'd want them to be there if they can be. When Max went away for a few days to his old university to see his friends I missed him like crazy and vice versa when I was on holiday even though he came to see me! I like having them there, well close to me even if they're not physically there if that makes sense?

My ex boyfriend used to live around 20-30 minutes away from me, or longer by bus, which was around 90 minutes. At the start it wasn't too bad, but they only work if both people put the effort in, for example at the start I used to go to his house, he'd come to mine for a few hours or we'd meet in the middle. That ended after a few months and at the time we did have college and that so we could only see each other on weekends or an occasional day during the week. it got to the point where I was just going to see him for a couple of hours per week, we wouldn't be texting much (that was down to him) and then he just pretty much started putting me down and forgot what our relationship should have been about. After we left college it didn't even get better and eventually it led to us breaking up (he broke up with me, yet he was bitter and said I cheated on him :rolleyes:... I think that's near enough the other way round). In this case, it was our distance to an extent because we couldn't see each other and it wasn't as though we were a normal couple due to it. He said that boyfriends and girlfriends don't always text each other and they're fine, but he didn't seem to realise that was because they saw each other a lot more. However, I really do think they can work, they're definitely not for everyone though and I say don't knock it until you've tried it. Surely, how would you know if they work or not if you don't try?

[Jssy]

I was in one for 8 months and my boyfriend lives a 3 hr and 30 minute train ride away costing me £45 everytime I went down. We split because of the distance but we're still close even after 2 years split up and we've considered getting back together. I think I could do it now that I'm more mature