Do you hold grudges?

[scottish]

Do you tend to hold grudges?

I know a few people on here tend to hold grudges for a very long time, so do you?

[FlyingJesus]

Nah seems like far too much effort, I have views on people and how they are as characters but I don't go in for hanging on to a perceived slight just because I can

[Alysha]

I do. I'm really bad for it. I just ignore people if I'm holding said grudge, and will probably never speak to them again.

[Lewis]

Depends on the person, mostly not

[Empired]

I don't keep my bad feelings towards a person but I find it really hard to act completely normal around them again if we've realllllllly fallen out. Don't know if that counts as a grudge or not.

[dbgtz]

I think it's safe to say I do, even for the smallest of things. The chances of the person knowing I hold it are slim as I tend to not let it interfere (except in extreme cases ), but I do and I'm glad I do.

[buttons]

most of the time i don't even if we've had a bad fallen out but there is one i will never ever forgive!

[Samantha]

It depends what they've done, for example my ex's best friend (the one who got us together) broke both our trust and I didn't forgive him and I refused to even acknowledge him. My ex agreed for a while then started hanging out with him again to the point where he lied and ignored me to talk and see him lmao. I don't have anything to do with either of them now, so you could say I'm bad for it, but usually I just let things slide.

[Inseriousity.]

I have an auntie that holds grudges for the tiniest of reasons so seeing her throughout my life isolate herself was the perfect lesson not to waste time with grudges. People are a mixture of good or bad no matter how bad they get so I try to bear that in mind and remember the good things

[Kyle]

Never ever ever. There is a difference between holding a grudge and removing a person from your life and I feel like the latter allows for a level of forgiveness over time.

I don't understand grudges and am reminded of a line from a spoken word song here:

"'If you can't forgive and forget, how's this:
Forget forgiving and just accept that that's it
See that's how it's got to be
Then you can fall in love, get on with your life and be free"