How do I?

[FlyingJesus]

I think he was being sarcastic?

Nope

How do I learn to not care about other peoples opinions

The first thing you have to do:
Stop caring what other people think.

The HxF doctors work their magic once again!

[Stephen]

best treatment since 2k4

[Wig44.]

Nope



The HxF doctors work their magic once again!

Gz you learned how to quote out of context!!!!!1!!11!

I guess a metro like you wouldn't understand.

[Becca]

I don't really know the answer to this, I was already like it, so yeah.

[FlyingJesus]

Gz you learned how to quote out of context!!!!!1!!11!

I guess a metro like you wouldn't understand.

It's not out of context at all it's exactly what you said, and I'm not entirely sure how calling me a metro is insulting but yes, I do understand such basic psychology as lying to yourself. I also know that although it gets surface results, it solves absolutely no deep-rooted self image problems.

[Wig44.]

It's not out of context at all it's exactly what you said, and I'm not entirely sure how calling me a metro is insulting but yes, I do understand such basic psychology as lying to yourself. I also know that although it gets surface results, it solves absolutely no deep-rooted self image problems.

Yes, not out of context at all, you just snipped out the rest of my answer. Lying to yourself? It is a change of mindset, the outside reflects within. As your external body language, vocal projection and what you say changes, so people respond differently. This then MAKES you more confident. I suppose that eluded you though? And deep-rooted self image problems (not that this is one..) are more serious than something you can treat with self-help and require professional help. I like the way you resort to a straw man. As for metro being an insult - I think men who are scared to embrace their testosterone are pretty pathetic so..

I await your next straw man.

[FlyingJesus]

Not quoting an entire post is not the same as taking things out of context.
It is lying to yourself, because clearly Paul is not a confident man or he wouldn't have felt the need to ask for help on this topic. Whatever the end result, there is no way you can seriously say that this method doesn't begin with lying to oneself, so no that wasn't a straw man, unlike your reference to my lifestyle - and nice going with that by the way, making strained attempts to belittle someone in a thread about not caring what others think, very defensive of you. Unfortunately according to your own doctrine I have to believe that you must seek my approval and not the other way around, so in the spirit of taking part I don't think I'll let your (inaccurate) opinion do much to change me. Your attacks are quite amusing though so do try again, however I'm rather of the mindset that men who are too weak and primitive to control their testosterone are pretty pathetic, so don't try too hard or get too much more angry.

[Soy]

u mad^


and yeah you just got to learn to deal with it.

I used to get quite pissed when people used to talk **** behind my back now i'm like if they haven't
got the sack to say it to my face then its awwlll goooood

but we all opinionize and judge so yeah

[Wig44.]

Not quoting an entire post is not the same as taking things out of context.
It is lying to yourself, because clearly Paul is not a confident man or he wouldn't have felt the need to ask for help on this topic. Whatever the end result, there is no way you can seriously say that this method doesn't begin with lying to oneself, so no that wasn't a straw man, unlike your reference to my lifestyle - and nice going with that by the way, making strained attempts to belittle someone in a thread about not caring what others think, very defensive of you. Unfortunately according to your own doctrine I have to believe that you must seek my approval and not the other way around, so in the spirit of taking part I don't think I'll let your (inaccurate) opinion do much to change me. Your attacks are quite amusing though so do try again, however I'm rather of the mindset that men who are too weak and primitive to control their testosterone are pretty pathetic, so don't try too hard or get too much more angry.

It absolutely is in this case.. How on earth is that not quoting out of context? Obviously what you quoted will not make anywhere near as much sense when quoted alone as compared to with the rest of my 'doctrine'.

Your assumption that I cannot control my testosterone and my emotions are amusing and inaccurate. If you would like to cast judgement, please do so accurately. I'm not trying hard nor getting angry, quite the opposite - I swear I will lose all faith in humanity soon. Furthermore, I'd hate to change you - too great a source of amusement. As to trying to belittle you, how so? I've not threatened you once. And on to the major issue - lying to yourself.. You become confident through a positive feedback loop. You look at why you are not confident (caring what people think) you rationalise this (why does it matter, they won't remember you, caring what people think is only going to make you scared of rejection) you realise how pointless it was and stop caring/whatever. This is, essentially confidence, and because of this change in mindset you will act differently too, changing people's interactions wit hyou for the better, boosting confidence. As I said, a positive feedback loop. Lying to yourself would be saying 'I'm beautiful this way' and being a fat 300lbs loser who obviously isn't.

[FlyingJesus]

It absolutely is in this case.. How on earth is that not quoting out of context? Obviously what you quoted will not make anywhere near as much sense when quoted alone as compared to with the rest of my 'doctrine'.

The rest of the post is in essence a follow-up to the opening statement. Out of context would be if I were to cut out half a sentence to entirely change the meaning.

Your assumption that I cannot control my testosterone and my emotions are amusing and inaccurate. If you would like to cast judgement, please do so accurately.

We're joined today by my good friend hypocrisy, hello!

As to trying to belittle you, how so? I've not threatened you once.

Threats have nothing to do with belittlement. Your strange idea that I'm scared of being manly for some reason was clearly meant to belittle me as a person as it has nothing to do with the actual topic.

And on to the major issue - lying to yourself.. You become confident through a positive feedback loop. You look at why you are not confident (caring what people think) you rationalise this (why does it matter, they won't remember you, caring what people think is only going to make you scared of rejection) you realise how pointless it was and stop caring/whatever. This is, essentially confidence, and because of this change in mindset you will act differently too, changing people's interactions wit hyou for the better, boosting confidence. As I said, a positive feedback loop. Lying to yourself would be saying 'I'm beautiful this way' and being a fat 300lbs loser who obviously isn't.

Caring what other people think doesn't make you unconfident, and is in fact central to confidence anyhow. Your own method seems to agree with that at least, as you say that part of this loop (and indeed the part which seems to make it a loop at all rather than a singularity) is how other people react to your change in manner. Unless one is mentally damaged in a certain way then as human beings we will always care about the opinions of others, and that's not a bad thing like the ultra-liberal youth of today seem to believe - wanting to be accepted is fine and makes you human. Whether your theory works or not I won't comment on as I've never needed to try it, but it does still depend on a lie to work.