My story: Struggling, bullying, suicide, self harm

[lawrawrrr]

You know you are using "attention seeking" in a negative format in regards to the post I quoted you with, don't try and twist my words.

Well tbh, to get to those sources you'd most likely have to google "suicide tumblr" which would suggest contemplating of suicide by someone in the first place. People do not spontaneously think "hey let's see if there's any suicide blogs or tumblr or ones that promote self harm!!!!!!" there is an underlying reason for it and it's highly likely that person was suicidal before even looking at tumblr. So the claim that it's tumblr/twitter causing a peak in teen suicides is ridiculous. There are more things to consider in society than *blaming the internet*.

* of course they have a minor effect, but to hold those sites responsible for major increases is silly.

No I'm not, I'm using it in it's grammatically correct sense. I'm not even replying to the rest of it because I'm fed up of being targetted for having an opinion.

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FYI I have never ONCE posted on my twitter about my own personal issues, when it comes to physical things. When it comes to depression, maybe, because it's a personal blog. Noone forces you to follow me. I'm not being hypocritical

[LiquidLuck.]

yes she must have felt like there was absolutely nothing left for her in the world. it's funny how you say she might have felt not existing is better than a painful life because i feel that way all the time so it feels weird knowing that most people are happy with their lives everyday.. i've not felt that way in a long time and i'm still alive. so she must have been really really fed up, as shown by her 2 previous suicide attempts.
does making bad choices mean a person deserves to die? just cause she picked the 'wrong' guy? um no, so why should she be punished for it?
she DID move schools and it continued ONLINE and OFFLINE. she couldn't escape it. sure fire way to drive anyone mad.

I also feel that way lots of times, but I still have that bit of hope that things might change and it won't be as bad. She most likely didn't.
I never said making bad choices means a person deserves to die and I also didn't EVER say she deserved to die. Also never said she should be punished for picking the wrong guy. Don't try twisting my words please because I don't think an innocent person deserves to die. And that was exactly what she was at the time she made her first bad choice about this. Innocent. She flashed when she shouldn't have because she was way too young to think of the consequences.
About the guy, I do think she should have been smarter than that and obviously not go be with him. If her life was already that bad, she should have been intelligent enough not to make it worse.
I know she moved schools but if people still knew where she was, then she didn't do much to get away from everything. Like she said, she kept visiting facebook. If you're trying to escape a picture of you that is around the internet, it's not a very bright move to keep your facebook.

[MKR&*42]

No I'm not, I'm using it in it's grammatically correct sense. I'm not even replying to the rest of it because I'm fed up of being targetted for having an opinion.

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FYI I have never ONCE posted on my twitter about my own personal issues, when it comes to physical things. When it comes to depression, maybe, because it's a personal blog. Noone forces you to follow me. I'm not being hypocritical

You know there are 2 ways of interpreting attention seeking;

- OMG LOOK AT ME, MUST BE CENTRE OF ATTENTION NOW!!!!!!
- I wish someone would just pay a bit of attention to me so I didn't feel so isolated all the time :/

So you can pull out grammar all you want, completely different to interpretation and meaning. Had to Google this because I knew I had seen this before when someone challenged me on the word "attention seeking";

the following styles of attention seeking have been identified:

Extroverted positive overt style – associated with narcissism, bragging and boasting.
Extroverted negative overt style – to gain pity and reassurance.

There are 4 but the other 2 aren't necessary in this context. If you honestly believe those 2 meanings are completely the same, my God.
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If you have an opinion, you should be ready to defend it. If I blurt out "I think hitler was a good guy", do you think no-one's going to ask why?

[FlyingJesus]

No I'm not, I'm using it in it's grammatically correct sense. I'm not even replying to the rest of it because I'm fed up of being targetted for having an opinion.

No you're being targeted for being wrong. Stating things that are blatant untruths is not the same as having an opinion, it's merely being uninformed and bigoted. Also you have in every post used the words "attention seeking" in some form in a contemptuous way as though crying out for help were a bad thing and makes one unworthy of being helped. You're saying that you hate people who seek attention. You're saying that you think people who speak about their suffering are false.

You're absolutely entitled to an opinion, but it ought to be an informed one and not based solely on weak personal experience. I'd have thought a so-called news reporter would be aware of that.

[Inseriousity.]

Monkey see, monkey do.

Unfortunately, if someone sees someone else do something, they do it too.

OFC I feel bad for the girl, her family and her friends but I'm talking more generally now.

lol yes and I'd agree if the doing something wasn't taking your own life!

[dbgtz]

she DID move schools and it continued ONLINE and OFFLINE. she couldn't escape it. sure fire way to drive anyone mad.

She could have quite easily escaped the online harassment after the first time, which would mean the following events would not have happened.

[LiquidLuck.]

She could have quite easily escaped the online harassment after the first time, which would mean the following events would not have happened.

This is exactly what I think. It's so easy to be someone you're not in the internet without anyone ever knowing who you really are. She could have deleted all her previous accounts in every site and just make new ones. PLUS, she even had a new IP adress.

[dbgtz]

This is exactly what I think. It's so easy to be someone you're not in the internet without anyone ever knowing who you really are. She could have deleted all her previous accounts in every site and just make new ones. PLUS, she even had a new IP adress.

Or not make new ones at all because the guy located her easily enough before.

[LiquidLuck.]

Or not make new ones at all because the guy located her easily enough before.

I think if she did the call with that guy and people she knew, then the guy probably just asked the other people who she was on facebook or something like that.

[Nooses]

Firstly, rest in peace, you deserve it darling, you don't have to suffer any more. ♥

And to all those calling her, or anyone like her, an attention seeker, yes I suppose in a way it is, but not in a negative form.
Not as in OMG LOOK ME LOOK AT WHAT IVE DONE - if you're referring to them as an attention seeker in this sense, you're wrong.

Everyone makes mistakes, and for everyone, even if it's the same or similar incident, everyone deals with the results differently, and is affected by them differently.

Everyone needs someone. And often people suffering mental illness, anxiety, panic attacks, it's a lot harder for us, over the years when we've been judged, even small sly comments or actions here and there, they add up - even if it wasn't that much.
Because your own mind takes care of the rest, it starts to work against you, it changes you - depression. You try living awhile when with your own mind abusing you, screaming at you, making you feel like complete and utter ****, you no longer require someone else's put downs to be beaten up inside, but for those who get it also, it doesn't help.

It's one thing to say "oh, you should get help", yes, they should, but it isn't that simple or easy, in fact there is NOTHING easy or simple about it. Even if you do ask for help, and get help, in my case I have, and have, and I know first hand.
Everyone has secrets, everyone hides something, people suffering mental illness often hide it, the people you see at school, constantly smiling and acting happy, you think they're okay, right? There's every chance they may be, but there's also every chance they may be the complete opposite. It's draining having to act okay, like everything is *Removed* fantastic, but we all do it more or less at some time in our lives, some more than others. Sure, they could just drop the act and be themselves, but people are cruel creatures, showing how you really are leaves you vulnerable and open to more abuse. Some of us keep it all inside, and this is extremely damaging, wanting to be able to tell someone, to let it out to without the fear of being judged upon for how you really feel. It's not easy to face someone and spill all your dark, disturbing thoughts, even if you may want to, even if it's someone who can help like a social worker.

So along comes Tumblr, people use it as an outlet, and that's a good thing, and while what may appear on their blog may not look 'good' if it helps them, then who are you to judge? If you don't like what you see upon their blog, don't look at it, don't visit it, instead of so many that do so and leave abusive messages - which do not help. Tumblr allows people to be honest about how they are, to connect and support others who are also suffering, so in a way they are getting help by doing this, perhaps not in the proper sense society sees as 'getting help' but help nonetheless. They know they're not alone in being this way in this world. And that, is a very powerful thing.

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