Ever been bullied, how did you deal with it?

[Gibs960]

Been bullied a few times, for different reasons I suppose.

1st Time was by this kid in the year above me who used to constantly push me over or call me names or whatever in the playground. Every time I told a teacher or dinner lady or whatever, the kid just said it was accidental. Due to that and other issues with teachers, I ended up moving schools.

2nd Time was by this girl who basically fancied me but because I didn't fancy her she got aggressive and would kick me up the table and call me names. Every time I told the teacher about it, she played the race card (she was Chinese),and she got away with it.

3rd Time was by another girl (I used to hang around with girls a lot cos they were usually nicer to me, although I could fit in with guys, just never found a particular friend to latch onto) who was kinda like a best friend who crossed over to the darkside, she just told a ton of people to not speak to me and I ended up being friendless for about a month, she ripped my tie once and eventually I skipped school for about a week and told my mum that I was ill. I did tell my mum, we went into school and they sorted it out.

4th Time was by no one in particular, just gay jokes all the time, calling my ****** and what not. I'm not gay and I know they're just insecure about themselves, so I just get on with my day. This still happens a fair bit, even by my "friends".


I think the real issue with bullying is that schools as a whole don't do enough about it. Most of the experiences above were never properly sorted out, excluding one. I can't count how many times I've been told to "ignore" bullies. You can't ignore someone who is telling you that you're a "worthless gayboy" or whatever, or who is pushing you over and hurting you both physically and emotionally. I suppose some schools are less to blame because they have so many pupils that it's hard to keep up with them all, but most primary schools don't have any excuse, just pure incompetence as teachers. We get told that bullying is wrong and all that tosh, but someone who has been brought up to hate any minority (which is basically the norm in Stoke) will pounce on anything that is different about you. I'm surprised no one really comments on my glasses.

[=Sam]

So it's my fault for being bullied because I was born ginger?

A fault isn't a reason bro.

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<Sarcasm> U HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE REASONS FOR BEING BULLIED IF U WANT IT TO GO AWAY. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR SITUATIONS
SO OBVIOUSLY THE SOLUTION IS TO DYE YOUR HAIR (which doesn't even make a ******* difference, my friend dyes her ginger hair black and still gets called ginger all the time)
as opposed to teaching bullies to er not bully</sarcasm>

I appreciate you.

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i got assaulted and bullied until i left school by girls i'd never even had a conversation with, the reason that they gave is that i'm "ugly".

by your standards that's okay right? i should just get some surgery or change my hair and makeup?

I don't have standards for the average person bro. So nope.

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There is no (acceptable) reason for being bullied - its only to make the bully feel dominant and proud of themselves. If you want to say that's a justifiable reason than **** off you ******* piece of ****.

Fair enough mang

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Tell that to those little kids who have to live their childhood through all forms of bullying, you think they deserve that.. they brought that upon themselves??

Do you think kids in africa deserve to starve? Do you think they brought it upon themselves? Grow up please.

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To even suggest that we brought it upon ourselves is the most ridiculous rubbish ever. I have always been the nicest person possible to people and I got bullied for my hair my intelligence and everything, it just ruins lives really, never again was I able to speak to people really or cope socially.

@Mink; you truly are the sort of person I despise the most to say that it's just unbelievable. Go and bully some people if you want and enjoy having no friends and you will still not know how the people who have suffered feel.... it is an unbearable pain and I hope you suffer it greatly after saying all of that to realise how truly awful you are....

I don't enjoy bullying and I don't intend to. I prefer to try and help people. This is a forum and you shouldn't take things so seriously. But hey that's you.

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i agree lol, it's a stupid statement for him to make n it pissed me right off too, dw

Don't get so angry, I'm sure this is difficult.

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In summary I think I prove my original statement well, there's a reason some people get bullied and others not. I was trying to help and be respectful, but you all turned into bullies by reacting to what I had said.

I touched a fair few nerves via posting here, so I'm outta this thread. Peace

[karter]

Do you think kids in africa deserve to starve? Do you think they brought it upon themselves? Grow up please.

??? Struggling to find sense in this, how does that have to do with anything and when did I even say that. It's you who said that bullying happens for a reason, are you just out of ideas to defend yourself.

P.S I'm impressed you searched up a 4 year old post just to -rep me (stalker much?) Please grow up and start making sense

How I deal and react to all situations shapes me towards a better life, and in turn - makes me a fantastic human being.

Clearly.

Haha I forget that you are one of those people who are never exposed to things like this but seem to have such hot headed opinions. I recommend you a 'strategy'..Don't ever give any advice to anyone.

[Catchy]

A fault isn't a reason bro.

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I appreciate you.

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I don't have standards for the average person bro. So nope.

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Fair enough mang

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Do you think kids in africa deserve to starve? Do you think they brought it upon themselves? Grow up please.

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I don't enjoy bullying and I don't intend to. I prefer to try and help people. This is a forum and you shouldn't take things so seriously. But hey that's you.

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Don't get so angry, I'm sure this is difficult.

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In summary I think I prove my original statement well, there's a reason some people get bullied and others not. I was trying to help and be respectful, but you all turned into bullies by reacting to what I had said.

I touched a fair few nerves via posting here, so I'm outta this thread. Peace

I agree with @Marketing; from just skimming your post you sound like a complete tool 'bro'

[buttons]

In summary I think I prove my original statement well, there's a reason some people get bullied and others not. I was trying to help and be respectful, but you all turned into bullies by reacting to what I had said.

I touched a fair few nerves via posting here, so I'm outta this thread. Peace

lol your original statement was "people are bullied for a reason", now you claim to be a bullying victim? by your reasoning, it would be your fault that you're now being 'bullied' rather than us as the 'perpetrators'? ps many people refuting your claims does not make them a bully.

[AgnesIO]

A fault isn't a reason bro.

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I appreciate you.

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I don't have standards for the average person bro. So nope.

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Fair enough mang

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Do you think kids in africa deserve to starve? Do you think they brought it upon themselves? Grow up please.

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I don't enjoy bullying and I don't intend to. I prefer to try and help people. This is a forum and you shouldn't take things so seriously. But hey that's you.

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Don't get so angry, I'm sure this is difficult.

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In summary I think I prove my original statement well, there's a reason some people get bullied and others not. I was trying to help and be respectful, but you all turned into bullies by reacting to what I had said.

I touched a fair few nerves via posting here, so I'm outta this thread. Peace

Utter troll - your comments are idiotic, and blaming the bullied kid for being bullied? Rightttt - despite that so many people are bullied for having freckles, being unusually tall, their voice, looks, hair colour etc - how on earth is that their fault?

[velvet]

In summary I think I prove my original statement well, there's a reason some people get bullied and others not. I was trying to help and be respectful, but you all turned into bullies by reacting to what I had said.

I touched a fair few nerves via posting here, so I'm outta this thread. Peace

please explain how i've been a "bully" to you, gimme some quotes. don't make stupid statements with no evidence then go "lol levin da fred"

also, again. i've had more interaction with you in this thread than i did with the girls who bullied me for five years. explain how i brought that on myself.

[Mikey]

Utter troll - your comments are idiotic, and blaming the bullied kid for being bullied? Rightttt - despite that so many people are bullied for having freckles, being unusually tall, their voice, looks, hair colour etc - how on earth is that their fault?

I agree with this, the guy is a tool.

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Was bullied in school for being a-lot taller than everyone else in both primary school and high school. In high school when everyone started getting older it changed because everyone else started growing.

And like people just taking the piss for the sake of taking this piss? But I wouldn't call that bullying, would call that just being immature.

[Liva]

I think the real issue with bullying is that schools as a whole don't do enough about it. Most of the experiences above were never properly sorted out, excluding one. I can't count how many times I've been told to "ignore" bullies. You can't ignore someone who is telling you that you're a "worthless gayboy" or whatever, or who is pushing you over and hurting you both physically and emotionally. I suppose some schools are less to blame because they have so many pupils that it's hard to keep up with them all, but most primary schools don't have any excuse, just pure incompetence as teachers. We get told that bullying is wrong and all that tosh, but someone who has been brought up to hate any minority (which is basically the norm in Stoke) will pounce on anything that is different about you. I'm surprised no one really comments on my glasses.

This is so true.

[Luckelelle]

I was bullied in the class before 1st class, it was still on the school I was gonna start on and I had the same class. It's called "förskolan". I had 3 guys on me all the time but I ran much faster than them so they didn't get to beat me a lot :p

Later in the years one of them tried to bully my best friend but I beated him up badly so he stopped :3