I just want to 'do something'

[geo]

I'm kinda like you Warren, I want to do something but for reasons I feel like I can't. Anyway, a few weeks ago I saw Zoella post this YouTube video and it really got me thinking that the message is good, I should just start saying 'yes' to a few more things that I'd think were out of my comfort zone. You should take a watch, it could give you some ideas or a little bit more motivation.



If you don't want to watch the video, she mentions something called NCS on there, and NCS is basically a 2 week activity course (that's not too expensive) and seems like a load of fun and an opportunity to do something and meet new friends.

Here's the website

I'm really sorry if this isn't what you're looking for really but the idea of NCS does sound fun and would get you out and get you doing stuff you might never have done before.

[Ardemax]

*Sigh*

Lately I've just been really discontent with my life and just want to "do something" but I'm really not sure exactly what I mean by it. I just am really sick and tired of like sitting on my bed for so many hours in the day and not going out or anything, but when I go out I don't really know what to do... I only really hang with friends during college times (we'll prob meet up 2/3 times over summer) and I'm cool with it being only a couple of times, but I really wanna do something to like improve myself? Like how people say do 1 thing every day that scares you haha.

I enjoy typing and stuff (hence why all my depts on here are content based haha) and writing a bit irl and I'd love to kinda go out and get to know more people and stuff but I don't really like my personality and I don't have enough money to just go out and join clubs and stuff argh.

Idrk if you can gather what I'm saying but I'm fed up of wasting my life doing **** all really and idrk how to improve with no money/not such great personality.

In your spare time at home, why not start something like writing your own book? I'm sure it will keep you pre-occupied for long periods of time.

[Yawn]

get job

[Zelda]

I completely suffer from this too. I just wake up literally, go get my laptop sit on my bed and just mull over how terrible my life is every single day.

Knowing me I probably won't even see anyone over the holidays at all cause i'll just be so scared to do so or ask them or something. I know i've like made a list of things to do for myself, like a load of video games to play tv shows to catch up on series to watch etc, but I really want to get something done with my life really.

I've like been looking at jobs too like you Hayden but every single time I do I just can't find anything around me at all. I have sort of given up really ngl

I really want to actually do a project for myself really but I'm not sure what, something to keep me going and help me meet targets. I honestly not sure what I would do though, as I honestly don't know what I'm into anymore

[Kardan]

If you're really bored with your life, and really want something to do, and can't find a job... Why not volunteer work? Not only does it do something good for the community and those around you, but it gives you something to do and gives you valuable experience that can either help you later in life, or help you get a job

[Jurv]

i understand where you're coming from completely. i only ever seem to do something when i have money (which is hardly ever) getting a job is easier said than done too, there's so many places to apply but it's hard to actually get the job or even get an interview, i've been looking for months and not managed to get anywhere. whenever i do have money though i try to make the most out of it and go places i know i'll enjoy nd stuff. i've been going to the cinema and gigs quite a lot whenever i've had money which has been good & got me out the house for most of the day. idk what else to suggest rly as i'm sort of in the sitchuashoon

edit: why don't you ask if there's any jobs to do around the house or s/t to earn some money? or maybe ask other family if they have any jobs going
i've been doing some gardening for my nanna and her neighbours for the past couple of days (sweet aren't i) which has earned me some dolla dolla $$

[geo]

Just been talking to Tom about this and this could work:

Set yourself a bucket list, but start off with small achievements that still aren't in your comfort zone. So not even extreme activities or anything, but maybe just something you'd be too scared to do right now. If you put the tasks in order of how difficult you think they're gonna be, then you should start from the low end and work your way up. Each task you do you can kind of tick it off and feel like you've achieved something, and then always strive to better yourself. This might be able to help your confidence levels if you're struggling with that as you think you can achieve more and you can look back on the things you've done and know that you're able to do them. Or as Zoella said (I think) keep a diary. Write down the things you've done, so the next time you want to do something and you're feeling a little worried about doing it, read back on your diary and realise that you've already achieved so much and the next thing you want to do will be fine. Building up your confidence would really help with saying 'yes' to more things.

[MKR&*42]

I'm really sorry I haven't quoted all of you but thanks for all the replies so far, didn't expect this many

If you're really bored with your life, and really want something to do, and can't find a job... Why not volunteer work? Not only does it do something good for the community and those around you, but it gives you something to do and gives you valuable experience that can either help you later in life, or help you get a job

I wouldn't mind doing some volunteering if I'm stuck with no job, but I'm not too sure what most volunteering jobs entail exactly. I know there's a vast majority of stuff to do... but I honestly can't think of what most volunteers do haha.

In your spare time at home, why not start something like writing your own book? I'm sure it will keep you pre-occupied for long periods of time.

I wouldn't even know where to start with a book, I just can't develop plots and characters that easily in my mind. I wouldn't mind just writing some kind of journal or s/t if that's a bit similar

I'm kinda like you Warren, I want to do something but for reasons I feel like I can't. Anyway, a few weeks ago I saw Zoella post this YouTube video and it really got me thinking that the message is good, I should just start saying 'yes' to a few more things that I'd think were out of my comfort zone. You should take a watch, it could give you some ideas or a little bit more motivation.



If you don't want to watch the video, she mentions something called NCS on there, and NCS is basically a 2 week activity course (that's not too expensive) and seems like a load of fun and an opportunity to do something and meet new friends.

Here's the website

I'm really sorry if this isn't what you're looking for really but the idea of NCS does sound fun and would get you out and get you doing stuff you might never have done before.

Thank you so much for that video haha, I've needed something/someone for a long time to tell me "just say yes" and after I watched that video I decided to go and watch "Yes Man" which ran along the same theme (good film, everyone watch it). We were informed of the NCS back in school but I wasn't that interested in it back then, definitely seems more appealing right now.

In regards to your other post I have a mini set of goals for over summer but they're only very basic, so some stuff that's out of my comfort zone would probably help towards the whole "just say yes" attitude and it would be nice to look back and see all I've achieved so far.

Ty loads Geo ove:

also, take any opportunity. don't be like me weighing up the pros and cons and mulling it over for weeks on end. just look at the pros and go for it..

Never considered this stance, thank you for this great advice jen

Best thing, and how I met all of my best friends was getting a hobby. mine was in sport, they're now my best friends and I do so much with them all... drinking, cinema etc. I
guess you just need to find a group that you feel comfortable with and it will all fall into place

From your personal perspective, do you think it's ever too late to get into sports? I've never been a massive fan of them really but I'm going to try and get fitter over this summer - but I'd just feel a bit awkward if I was to join some kind of sports club with very little experience in said sport haha.

firstly, don't tell yourself that you don't have a great personality. try and be confident, believe in yourself.

I think I can be confident when I need to and out of all but 1/2 of my friends I seem to be the most confident, but around certain groups of people (primarily males if I'm honest) irl I lose all the confidence. I also don't consider myself to be that nice a person hence why I didn't really try and make that many friends in the past

thanks for the replies all

[buttons]

From your personal perspective, do you think it's ever too late to get into sports? I've never been a massive fan of them really but I'm going to try and get fitter over this summer - but I'd just feel a bit awkward if I was to join some kind of sports club with very little experience in said sport haha.

stop this right now! you are entitled to join a free for all club as much as anyone else. you can only improve in something if you try, so cliche but everyone starts somewhere! even if you're not good you can still enjoy it. not everything in life is something u have to be perfect at yknow. go enjoy life, it's your world too

as for volunteering here you can do volunteering such as those buckets for charity in the town centres etc or soup kitchens for homeless people, stuff like that. my gran used to do marie curie leaflets for free too. uh and there are volunteering groups to help disabled adults or kids. try volunteerscotland.org.uk lots of charity work

[Zelda]

mm yea I'm interested in getting into sports a bit too really, I've always been dreadful and been made fun of how bad I was though and it always put me off but I needa get fit too anyway tbh, and I just am struggling so much because I am in such a sticky situation that I can't even get out of.

I've started applying for jobs now at least anyway though, only done a Waitrose app so far but gonna be like really looking into it all this half term so at least I have something to do in the holidays and might make a few friends possibly lmfao.

I'm gonna like start writing that thing I was talking to geo about though cause that will definitely help me, just needa like start getting to going out with people a little more I suppose, but I just feel that I am such a boring person with no personality that I don't get why anyone would want to do anything with me really, which is sorta why I'm so reluctant to ask the girl out that I fancy too, even though I think she probably does like me from the way she acts around me.

The NCS stuff Geo was talking about too looks really good tbh but in all honesty I think it's that fear of actually just applying to it and getting into it really, surrounded by people I don't know and not one person I do I would probably just break down completely really and I just would be so uncomfortable.

Also been thinking about writing a diary recently though of just all the things that are plaguing me in life so I can actually start to deal with them really and also anything that's gone well that day so I can actually see how I'm progressing. With no-one to really talk to about everything that goes on irl I sorta just bottle everything up and I really think like a diary would be great to just let my feelings out really